Sunday, May 17, 2009

Hmm kids?

All My life i've said I didn't want to have kids, told My now husband that when we were just dating and My parents that for a long time aswell....

I was confident I didn't want to hassle, the pain, the commitment, the responsibility, the diapers, the Stress, the cost or the burden

i was confident I didn't need the love, the reward and all those positive feelings that come along with them....

Now 'everyone' is doing it....I know like 30 people that have babies/are pregnant etc

I see the joy, the excitment, the pride, the happiness...

Am I going to miss out?

Can hubby and I handle kids? He can't even commit to walking the dog on a regular basis...what about a child.....???

Hmmmm. Is it peer pressure ? Or interest ?


But for now I will go to boot camp this morning and keep losing weight so if we do deceide we are taking that step I can be happy and healthy...

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Heather said...

a lot of time I think it is peer pressure because I know I feel it. I have absolutely no interest in ever having kids and people always say, oh you will or, its because your young just wait. And while Im sure that might be true for some people, some of us just arent meant for having kids not because we wouldnt be great parents, but because not everyone wants or needs a baby. I think you just have to look at what is making you interested in this now and find out if it is because everyone else is doing it and you want to fit in, or because of the attention people make out of it, or if there really is something missing in your life and you are ready for the responsibility. just know that its Ok NOT to have kids too.

~ugly girl with a beautiful heart~ said...

Okay...having kids of your own is waaaaay different than taking care of others' kids. However, best way to tell if you really want it is to babysit a little one for a night or two...or even three. You'll find out real quick if you want or not. I've always loved kids, wanted kids, and finally had one of my own. I swore I wanted three, I kind of want one more, but I'll be happy if I just have my son. He's me. However, having my own kid and having to learn how to parent in a way that's suitable to me and my family at a very young age has completely jaded me toward other people's kids. Seriously. I can't stand kids if they aren't my own or very close friend's/family's.

Hanlie said...

I'm the opposite... I've always really, really wanted to have kids, but these days I think I've missed the boat. We're so OLD! But then one of my friends would have another baby and my heart would just yearn for one again...

You're doing the right thing by getting fit and healthy before even thinking about conceiving!

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